I have wondered recently if I should move to china, their one child policy really appeals to me. Why is it that once you push a baby out people immediately start asking you when you are going to have another one? Seriously? You just popped the slimy sucker out, it is fresh in your brain (and lady parts for that matter), are most women thinking of having another so quickly? I have only wanted one biological child. I always said I would have one of my own and then adopt the second if I felt I wanted another. My job exposes me to so many unwanted children and they all need good homes and they are so beautiful. But people seem to really have a problem with me only wanting one child. When they ask me when I am having another, I say that I am not. I always get responses like, why? or you’ll change your mind… or don’t say things like that. What is up with our society; why can’t people have just one child? I have heard the weirdest reasons from people trying to convince me to continue to procreate; my favourites have to be: 1) if something happens to this child you won’t have a child left… hmm, so I am going to have a “plan B” child? something tells me that if (heaven forbid) we lost Everly, knowing that we had another child left would not make us any less sad and angry at the world, and 2) if you and Brandon die the child will be left all alone… well I think having a sibling does not soften the blow of loosing your parents and what about friends and family, do they count for nothing? I think that the environment you create for your child is their nuclear family. I just wish that I could tell people I only want one child and they would respect my decision, just as they respect other people’s decisions to have two children. I also get the impression that these “critics” are insinuating that I don’t like my child or being a mother and well I am here to tell you that THAT IS NOT THE CASE!!! I have been told to just say maybe or sure when I am asked, but I can’t justify lying to people just to make everyone more comfortable. I think that all responsible adults should have the right to independently decide how many people we bring into this world and we should not have to justify ourselves to those who believe otherwise- you don’t see me preaching to everyone that they should only have one!
Everly is rolling from back to front and front to back now- on purpose! It’s pretty darned cute. She gets close to being over and grunts until she flips, she gets the proudest look on her face as I shout hurray, it is the cutest thing in the whole entire world. She also likes eating carrots! Okay not really, but these pretend pictures are pretty funny.